I ordered something for less than $10 on Amazon the other day. It was a paperback book with 1001 questions and conversation starters. Initially, I clicked the impulse purchase as I envisioned bringing this on a road trip where we could spend hours flipping through the questions, learning new things about each other, and laughing to pass each mile marker. But when the book arrived, its purpose shifted, still focusing on enriching and deepening connections, but in a more simple application, with my partner, on a date night!
Conversations can become so routine, we almost know exactly what to expect and not that there is anything wrong with that, routines can be comfortable. But being vulnerable and daring in relationships is what it’s all about. Learning little things about your partner can re-ignite the spark and intrigue you in different ways. And questions, can not only allow for you to get to know your partner better but you’ll be surprised at how much you can learn about yourself too! Keeping a relationship strong and happy requires that both of you are fulfilled by each other and continuously learning each other’s inner thoughts, feelings, hopes, and dreams. This will enable you to share in ways you never thought possible.
Below are 25 questions to provide insight into your relationship. Write these on some cards or copy them into the notes app on your iPhone and bring them to your next date night just for fun. You’ll be surprised at how much you enjoy listening to your partner and mulling over these yourself.
- What’s something about yourself that you hope will never change?
- What books have you read that’ve had a big influence on you?
- What strange habit do you have?
- What fear would you like to overcome?
- What person, dead or alive, do you wish you could be more like?
- Growing up, what was your favorite children’s story or fairy tale?
- What’s your favorite poem or saying?
- What was your favorite subject in school?
- How have your priorities changed over time?
- Who’s had the biggest influence on you?
- What’s your earliest childhood memory?
- What nightmare woke you up in a panic?
- What memorable lesson did you learn from your parents?
- If you could travel back in time, what year would you visit?
- If you could spend an hour doing anything, what would it be?
- What does success mean to you?
- If you could visit with any person in history, who would it be?
- Have you ever helped a complete stranger? How?
- If you could go anywhere for dinner tomorrow, where would you go?
- What’s one of your greatest accomplishments?
- What do you think is your best quality?
- If you could turn into any animal, which one would you be?
- If you could write a bestselling book, what would it be about?
- What goals have you recently set for yourself? How are you doing with these goals so far?
- If you were a painter, what picture would you paint first?
If you want additional help with communication tips or want to deepen your connection with your partner,Dr. Kate Campbell, LMFT at Bayview Therapeutic Services is just a phone call away at 954-391-5305. Dr. Kate provides pre-marital counseling, marriage therapy, and couples counseling in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Happy connecting!
