Are you Struggling With Grief?
Have you or your loved one received the diagnosis of a serious illness? Are you struggling with a loss or impending end-of-life issues? Perhaps you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, including a pet, and/or what might have been?
Everyone experiences loss at some point in life and everyone grieves differently. There is no time limit to grief; it takes as long as it takes.
The emotions of grief can be overwhelming and affect your day-to-day functioning. You feel exhausted, sad, frustrated, confused, scared, and unsure how to navigate your situation. The experience is a roller coaster of thoughts and feelings and can affect you physically as well.
Recovering from loss might be the hardest work you ever do and though you want it fixed yesterday, grief takes time. Getting the help you need is so important, because you’re most likely experiencing intense feelings and thoughts that you have not experienced before, or it could even be bringing up memories of other losses.
Once a loved one has passed away, many people say that they feel empty; like there is a void in them once a loved one has passed. The loss is like a void in you and leaves you feeling empty.
Grief is the price of love. When you experience love, it fills a space in you, and once you lose someone or something that you loved, it leaves a huge void. That empty space feels like a hole in your soul. Loss of a love or life situation can be devastating to say the least. It can be difficult to know how to cope with the pain of your loss, how to begin the healing process, or where to turn for support as you attempt to discover your “new normal”.
Friends and family will start to move on with their own lives after some time. That’s why it’s so helpful to have a therapist who will listen without judgment, offer support, encouragement, and will help you navigate the changes and challenges you are going through. The process can be a time of self-definition, self-exploration, and re-evaluation. Reflecting on your life and loss at this time can prove to be very healing and can help you to come out of this with wisdom and compassion that you had not expected.
Grief affects everyone differently and there are many types of grief. You are not alone in this process, let us help you heal.
Loss of a Loved One…
Professionals say that people are at their worst when they are going through a divorce or grieving the death of a loved one. Some people say that divorce is harder than death. Death is final, but issues surrounding divorce often go on and on.
Grieving a relationship, like grieving a death, takes time and energy. The loss of a relationship is the loss of a life that you had planned, loss of dreams, perhaps the loss of the family unit, loss of children because they are under someone else’s roof at times. These are only a few of the sensations on the emotional roller coaster when you lose a lifestyle.
If you lost a loved one and you are the executor of the estate, then you have two jobs – the estate issues as well as your own grieving. The estate work is a task that can interfere with the grief process, and the work and decisions involved with the estate along with the grieving can diminish you and affect you physically as well if it gets to be too much. There are many important decisions involved and at times it can feel impossible to please everyone. It’s vital to take good care of yourself during this difficult time. Therapy can help!
Loss of Your Health...
The diagnosis of a terminal illness changes everything, absolutely everything. The life event of a terminal illness can affect you in ways that you never expected. Coping with the demands and decision making of this time is exhausting and normal, everyday tasks seem to be too much to deal with. Sometimes you don’t know how you will get through the day. Besides the amount of medical information you are having to take in, you are also dealing with the emotions and decisions about family, career, etc.
When you are living with a terminal illness, you want to ensure that you are taken care of in the best way possible, and that you are not a burden to your loved ones. This is a time when you have choices such as taking that trip that you have been wanting to take, perhaps visiting someone who you care about. In addition to dealing with your body’s demise, you are making very important decisions that will affect you and your loved ones now and in the future.
Finding your way in making these important decisions can be daunting. With all of the medical and legal information you are trying to understand and research, as well as the relationship issues that you face, you need all of the support that you can get as you go through this period in your life. Knowing how to deal with the decisions and issues is a process that is unique for everyone, and when you are doing something that you have not dealt with before, seeing a therapist can be a huge resource.
The right therapist can help with the decisions as well as Advanced Care Directive, end-of-life options such as medical treatments you want and do not want, and the many other legal, medical, and moral issues that need to be resolved in a timely manner.
Making this transition as simple and as meaningful as you can for yourself and everyone involved will bring you peace in the precious time you have left.
This is a time when people realize what is important and what is not so important. Talking with a therapist reveals what you truly want for yourself and your relationships and helps in choosing what is important and what must be done to complete your life to your satisfaction.
Questions arise, such as, “Who do I tell?”, “How do I tell them?”, and “Who will take care of me?” As a therapist and in my own life experiences, I have walked this path with people while they reviewed their life, lived for today, and looked ahead in planning the future.
Along with the challenges of a terminal illness, there are invaluable gifts. Appreciating the quality and gifts of your relationships is a natural process at this stage in your life.
In this reflecting of your life and relationships, the value of your relationships is heightened, and this is also an opportunity to heal some past wounds in relationships. In talks with a therapist, you have the opportunity to rewrite some things in your past that you might have wanted to do differently and to decide on your choices moving forward.
Imagine being able to review your life and rethink your experiences so that you can heal any unresolved situations allowing yourself to feel at peace with your life. You can be content and at peace with yourself knowing that you have done everything you could to make the best decisions that serve everyone involved. You deserve this!
Just as you have medical doctors to guide you through the physical process, your therapist will help you with the emotional process and can help you as you heal any unresolved issues for yourself and those close to you. While you are the expert in your life, your therapist is the expert in the process you are going through and will help you to discover other perspectives into the issues at hand. You deserve to rest easy and feel at peace knowing that you have done your best.
If you have time for choices, perhaps you need to visit someone or take a journey that you have always wanted to take. Allow us to support you in this process, you don’t have to do it alone.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone, Let Us Help
Because everyone grieves differently, your family or friends might want to help. However, they often don’t understand exactly what you are feeling and how you are dealing with the loss. Therapy is a safe place where you can vent and be heard as you go through the process. In our spa-like atmosphere, you will receive support and honest feedback in a caring manner.
There is the potential for incredible growth and life enrichment during the grief process or even end-of-life process when the process is honored, and you do the work necessary to care for yourself. You don’t have to do this alone, let us support you through the process. You deserve to have peace of mind and feel content.
Our therapists are experts in facilitating the grief counseling process, give us a call at 954.391.5305 ext. 1 to discuss the possibility of setting up a session and connect with a therapist who will be a great fit for you today. We look forward to speaking with you and supporting you on your journey!