Why We Have Mom Guilt And What To Do About It
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Becoming a mother is one of the most profoundly transformational experiences. It brings the most rewarding and most challenging experiences we could ever imagine. Children enrich our lives in so many ways and can also push us beyond our limits.
Parenthood often brings up issues we weren't previously aware of such as identity changes, memories of our own childhood, past traumas or hurts, changes in our world views, changes in our relationships with partners, family, friends, and work.
It is also important to note the many physiological and emotional effects of rapid hormonal changes, chronic sleep deprivation, and mixed feelings of joy, love, fear, sadness, and perpetual "mom guilt". Many moms even struggle with grief and may feel bad for missing aspects of what life used to look like when things were much more simple.
Whether you're a working mom or a stay-at-home mom, it doesn't matter. Motherhood is not easy! It's one of the hardest, yet most rewarding jobs we will ever have.
Many moms struggle and suffer in silence because they are afraid of talking about how they really feel. This may be due to feelings of shame/embarrassment or fear of being judged by others. Let's face it, society paints a pretty picture of what motherhood "should" look like, and when it doesn't look or feel that way, women can feel like a failure.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent. No perfect moms. And, no perfect dads. Don't put that pressure on yourself to have to keep it all together all the time.
As parents, we do our best to manage the stress of "normal" life along with the responsibility of keeping someone else alive and thriving, which can feel completely overwhelming at times.
The saying that "it takes a village" is so true. Moms need support during pregnancy, postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression, and parenthood. Sometimes the support in our personal life is not enough.
That's why we're so passionate about being a source of support for moms throughout the continuum. This ranges from trying to get pregnant to expecting a baby, to the postpartum experience, or being a mom with multiple children... If you believe counseling for moms in Fort Lauderdale, Parkland, Coral Springs, or anywhere state-wide can support you, then work with us.
You don't have to do this alone!
It's ok to not feel ok... There's no shame in asking for help.
Let us help you become the best version of yourself for you, your children, partner, family, friends, and/or co-workers.
Give us a call at 954.391.5305 to connect with a caring therapist today! Our team has several clinicians who specialize in maternal mental health and work with both individuals and couples during pregnancy, postpartum, and parenthood.
We offer face-to-face sessions as well as online therapy in Florida via phone or video sessions on a secure, HIPAA-compliant platform for busy moms who need support during nap time. Our team of expert counselors in Fort Lauderdale and Coral Springs are here to help!
We offer compassionate counseling for moms for new and expectant moms who are looking for support and tools. We want to help you to cope better with the many changes taking place in preparation for the baby's arrival and more.
Therapy for pregnant moms is also a great resource for couples who want to transition more smoothly into parenthood. You will learn to stay connected as friends, keep intimacy intact, communicate effectively, co-parent successfully, be on the same page with roles/expectations. As well as address and nurture strong child/parent attachments.
Having a child is an incredible gift and blessing, but it's not an easy journey for everyone. For individuals and couples who struggle through the fertility journey, you're not alone.
When pregnancy doesn't go as hoped, it can feel like you're on an emotional and hormonal rollercoaster with no end in sight. Your pregnancy dreams may be shattered due to unexpected losses, fertility challenges, or the dreaded diagnosis of infertility. Each one of these challenges deeply affects individuals, couples, and families on many levels.
Miscarriages are sometimes described as an invisible loss, but the shock, grief, sadness, sense of betrayal, and anger can impact you and your life on many levels. It's hard to accept when you may not understand why the loss happened. You may feel your loved ones don't understand the depth of your pain or why you're having such a hard time recovering after your loss.
You wish you could find a sense of peace, acceptance, and make meaning of what you've been through and that's where counseling for moms and infant loss counseling can help. Working with a supportive, compassionate, and understanding in-person or online therapist can help you successfully navigate the emotional rollercoaster of reproductive and pregnancy challenges.
Although many women experience perinatal mood and anxiety disorders during pregnancy, it's not frequently talked about. Pregnancy creates many changes in mood, thoughts, hormones, and relationships. It can be the perfect combination of creating symptoms of anxiety, fears, phobias, sadness, depression, and mood instability.
Many women also struggle with postpartum anxiety and postpartum depression after the birth of their baby. These experiences can range from minor hormonal imbalances such as the baby blues to full-blown postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, postpartum OCD, or even psychosis.
Working with a therapist during pregnancy and postpartum can significantly help women and their partners to better navigate the mental, emotional, physical, and relational changes.
We offer compassionate counseling for moms in Fort Lauderdale, Parkland, and Coral Springs to provide relief from the effects of perinatal and postpartum mood and anxiety disorders to moms and their partners as well.
Therapists that hold a certification in Perinatal Mental Health (PMH-C) are trained at an advanced level in the perinatal period; meaning before, during, and after pregnancy.
PMH-Cs are trained to treat Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMAD’s) by utilizing evidence-based treatment modalities. Additionally, PMH-C’s are also highly focused on prevention efforts, as research shows that many PMAD’s are preventable when women and families are provided with education, screening, and resources.
Therapists who hold this certification work with new moms, expectant mothers, women who are facing fertility challenges, women who are ambivalent about starting a family, women who are grieving due to miscarriage or loss of a child, women who have experienced a traumatic birth, and women who are struggling postpartum anxiety and depression.
A PMH-C works with women individually, in couples therapy, or in family therapy. Home visits are also sometimes utilized. Many PMH-C also works with partners, as research shows that PMAD’s affect roughly 1 in 10 fathers.
Assessing for prenatal and postpartum risk factors
Normalizing the transition to motherhood
Providing trauma Informed Care
Assessing and treating perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (OCD, PTSD, Depression, Bipolar Disorders and Psychosis)
Developing psychosocial treatment plans as well as appropriate psychotherapy techniques and alternative therapies
Considering systemic issues and attending to the needs of the whole family
Attending to cultural factors affecting the perinatal period
Providing education, utilizing community resources, and enlisting social support networks
Attending to issues of grief/loss as it relates to the perinatal period
Even the strongest, most connected couples experience difficulties with the exciting and overwhelming adjustment to parenthood.
With lack of sleep, loss of spontaneity for a time as a couple, and increased financial responsibilities, it can feel extremely stressful. Research shows that 67% of couples report a decline in relationship satisfaction for several years after having a baby. Therefore, counseling for moms dealing with pregnancy and postpartum is highly recommended!
Parents who are expecting a child can benefit immensely from seeing a therapist for pregnancy and postpartum anxiety or depression treatment. Whether an individual or couple participates in the pregnancy and postpartum therapy process, they can gain effective tools to help them successfully transition into the exciting new world of first-time parenthood.
Couples Counseling during pregnancy can enhance your connection with your partner and lead to more satisfying transition into parenthood. Therapy can increase your connectivity as a couple by keeping intimacy intact, enhance your communication and conflict management skills, teach you effective co-parenting approaches, highlight roles and expectations to ensure you’re on the same page. Additionally, it can help introduce tips for nurturing parent-child bonding to create secure attachments. These benefits significantly reduce the potential for developing postpartum depression and relationship conflict.
The next 9 months will fly by, so we invite you to be proactive by calling our team of expert therapists to schedule your initial pregnancy and postpartum counseling consultation today at 954.391.5305.
At Bayview Therapy in Fort Lauderdale, Coral Springs, and Plantation, FL, you will work with our PMH-C counselors who specialize in working with mothers and couples going through all stages of pregnancy, motherhood, and loss. To get started follow these simple steps:
Contact our counseling center and speak with our care coordinator.
Participate in a free consultation call with a therapist to learn more about them.
Begin counseling for moms, parents, or couples therapy and begin feeling more in control during this rewarding and stressful time.
We offer face-to-face sessions as well as online therapy in Florida via phone or video sessions on a secure, HIPAA-compliant platform. Our team of expert counselors in Fort Lauderdale, Coral Springs and Plantation, FL are here to help!
Being a mom and a parent is both rewarding and stressful. There is a huge learning curve and we cannot be perfect all the time. Maintaining your mental health matters more than ever...
In our Fort Lauderdale, Coral Springs, and Plantation, FL offices we provide a wide variety of services to help you manage life's ups and downs. If you're struggling to handle it on your own, then get in touch with us and let us support you, your relationship, and your family.
Our team of expert counselors and psychologists at Bayview Therapy specialize in different areas. We offer a wide range of counseling and psychological services to support our Fort Lauderdale, Boca Raton, Plantation, Southwest Ranches, Davie, Weston, Coral Springs, Coconut Creek, and Parkland communities.
We provide therapy and psychological evaluations for children, teens, adults, couples, and families dealing with a wide variety of life's challenges across the lifespan. Some of our specialties include depression counseling; trauma therapy and EMDR therapy; teen counseling; child and family counseling; couples counseling or marriage therapy; psychiatric medication management; and more.
We also provide online counseling options for those who reside in the state of Florida using our secure HIPAA compliant telehealth platform.