Melissa Valentina, PhD, LMFT
Hypnosis Can Help You Cope During a Pandemic
Remember "B.C.", Before Corona? Your goals and dreams were so different than they have been lately. The social distancing and the losses we have all experienced have been overwhelming. High school seniors will not have the rituals they have been looking forward to for so long. Family members are gone or inaccessible. And relationships have changed enormously as we live in close quarters day in and day out. No leisure travel, and no knowing when we will have these freedoms again.
We have such an unbelievable challenge hitting us now and no one knows how long or to what extent this COVID-19 virus will affect us all. So many of us are reaching for answers that no longer work for us – food, shopping, drugs, or alcohol - and we don’t know where to turn. These external solutions might work for a while, but there is a price we pay for overeating, overspending, and overindulging.
It is easy to be scared, worried, and anxious. When we are in a negative state such as these, these states shut us down to our own inner wisdom and strengths. There is a choice here of being tense and shut down or opening to possibilities of positive choices and other options of being. After so much of the searching for external solutions, what is left but to turn inward?
This turning inward has proven to be effective. While there are several ways to do this, here are three ways to access the inner knowing and calm:
Hypnosis therapy. Your inner resources are there for you 24/7 and this is where the answers are. Accessing these resources is where hypnotherapy helps people to soothe, calm, and restore themselves.
Daily contemplation. 20 minutes at the start of your day. When interviewed, hospice clinicians said they have to do their morning contemplation/meditation before they go out into the world, getting themselves right first before they interact with others.
Deep breaths. To relax, make sure the exhale is longer than the inhale-a simple approach and it doesn’t cost anything. This tells the nervous system to relax.
By calming yourself throughout your day, the mind can relax, and you are able to access solutions to problems and answers to your questions. As you do these exercises, you may notice anxious, fearful, or angry thoughts.
Here's a relaxation exercise for you to try...
Ask yourself, where do you feel the stress in your body? Feel it and then let it flow through you like a river, softly moving along. When thoughts come in, just let them move through you. Who are you without those thoughts?
Once you are in a calm space, ask yourself – “what do I want to create?” It’s not a mind question, just let the question be there while you continue to relax, noticing where you feel it in your body.
When you are ready, come back slowly, with a nice, long breath. See your surroundings, noticing the difference in your outlook.
What is hypnosis?
Hypnosis is a form of relaxed focus. And the focus is not on problems, rather it is on what you want to create. After a hypnosis session, clients report they are no longer worried about so many things. They are relaxed, calm, and they know what is important and what is not so important. They realize what issues need their attention and what they can do about those issues.
You owe it to yourself to be your best and take this opportunity to recreate yourself, your life, and your future. This era of your life can be a time of learning how to access your inner resources. When you invest in yourself, you know yourself better, and you create a better, more fulfilling future.
When you need help in an area where you are struggling and need solutions, and your current knowledge needs some outside, neutral input, it’s best to get professional help. We all need help sometimes. Just like seeing a doctor for your physical health, your emotional health is just as important, especially nowadays. It’s a good time to invest in yourself and get the help you need so you can honor yourself and live your truth.
I am certified in hypnosis and my passion is grief and loss and helping people connect with their resources to reduce stress and find their way in having a calmer, wiser outlook.
I have been practicing meditation or contemplation for over 30 years. Hypnosis is available through telehealth sessions as well as in person.
You can reach me at 954-391-5305.