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  • Jackie Schwartz, LMFT

How to Communicate Proactively in Your Relationship




When it comes to relationships, proactivity is the name of the game. This means that instead of waiting for something to go wrong, you should be proactive and take steps to prevent any unnecessary issues from arising. When it comes to communication, being proactive will help ensure that both parties are heard and respected.

Here are a few tips on how to communicate proactively in your relationship.

1. Establish Clear Boundaries

The first step in communicating proactively is establishing clear boundaries. This means taking the time to talk openly about topics like expectations, needs, feelings, and values with your partner.

It's important that both parties feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgement or criticism. Having clear boundaries allows you to better understand each other’s views and opinions which can help avoid miscommunication and conflict down the line.

2. Listen Actively

Active listening involves being present and engaged when your partner is speaking or has something to share. Listening actively means setting aside all distractions (phones, computers, etc.) and really paying attention to what your partner is saying without interrupting or offering advice unless asked for it directly.

It's also important that you provide feedback by repeating back what you have heard so that your partner knows you have been listening carefully. Doing this shows respect for the speaker and helps foster an atmosphere of understanding between both parties.

3. Ask Questions & Encourage Open Dialogue

Asking questions is an important part of being proactive because it allows you to gain a deeper understanding of your partner's point of view before jumping into a reaction or response. By doing this, you're encouraging open dialogue which helps create more meaningful conversations with each other as well as mutual understanding between both partners. It also prevents assumptions from entering into conversations which can lead to misunderstandings or hurt feelings down the line if left unchecked.

Communication is key in any healthy relationship so it’s important that couples learn how to communicate proactively rather than reactively in order to avoid unnecessary conflict and misunderstanding among them. Taking the time to establish clear boundaries, actively listen when one another speaks, ask questions and encourage open dialogue will help create an environment where both partners feel respected and heard while fostering mutual understanding between them as well.

Ultimately this leads to more positive relationships with less drama! So next time there’s a disagreement between you two, take a step back from reacting instinctively and utilize these tips instead! Good luck!

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