Alexa von Oertzen, LMFT
"Helping teens, adults, and families improve their relationships, conquer their challenges, and lead happier lives"
Only you know the deepest desires of your heart and in what areas of your life you could use an empathetic and collaborative clinician to help design a better future.
None of us have been born in a vacuum. We have had numerous relationships since our birth, be it family, caretakers, friends, or members of our communities. How we relate to the world and ourselves is heavily linked to who we grew up around and how we learned to behave in response to those relationships.
I am Alexa von Oertzen, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Florida and founder of Safe Haven Family Counseling, offering each client the most useful customized therapeutic techniques in a safe and nurturing environment. My aim is to elicit personal growth, increase agency, and enhance your understanding of your purpose and worth in this life.
Counseling For Adults:
When working with adults, my experience covers the following areas:
Anxiety & Stress
Negative Thought Patterns
Trauma & PTSD
Grief & Loss
Clients find my collaborative sessions helpful as we follow at their pace and preferred direction. This gives them the confidence to express their thoughts and feelings without feeling pressured or judged. The results then come from clients identifying recurring patterns present in their lives that have contributed to their negative frame of mind.
They begin to increase awareness of their strengths, available resources, and worth within interpersonal relationships. This directly translates into positive mindsets, confidence, and long term improvement in their emotional well-being.
Counseling For Teens, Parents, & Families:
As a family therapist that believes that all individuals are connected by their environment and especially their families, I specialize in working through family conflict, poor relationship alignments, triangulations, lack of boundaries, issues with adoption, blended family issues, anxiety, trauma, teen academic and behavioral issues, self-esteem and improving parenting skills.
I believe that the larger the number of family members present in a session, the more perspectives are gained, allowing us to build a 3D view of the relationship rules and patterns that are affecting my clients. This awareness can create a lasting change that benefits the whole family.
Counseling For My Portuguese Speaking Community
As a Brazilian-American therapist, I am closely in tune with the cultural and emotional needs of my people. The way we think, the way we relate, and the way we care is unique. I attribute my genuine care for others directly from my upbringing in Brazil. I offer all my therapeutic modalities in Portuguese to align better with my Brazilian clients. The beauty of using the right words in therapy is that it can illuminate the darkest of hearts and awaken connections that last forever.
I firmly believe that each person has the answers to overcome their circumstances. From this viewpoint, I use the strength-based Solution Focused Therapeutic approach with many of my clients as it focuses on their resources, talents, and ingenuity. It gives them the confidence to solve their problems, and offers them a measurable assessment of their progress throughout our therapy sessions.
I always keep a systemic lens on the family dynamic as the client is “part of the whole”, so I use a transgenerational therapeutic model to highlight the length of negative generational relationship patterns that have filtered down to my clients’ current undesirable interactions. This awareness can help reverse these cycles and move families out of feeling stuck and into healthier and more meaningful relationships.
I also use the Narrative Therapy approach with teens and young adults dealing with trauma, anxiety or low self-esteem. By re-storying their past, they can begin to see their problems as separate from themselves, helping them access their creativity, resourcefulness, and talents to find the best solutions. In this way, we collaboratively re-write their stories, find their voice, their sense of agency, and enhance their self-worth as the new ‘hero’ of their future.
My passion lies in connecting with people, really listening to them, and being curious about how they have come to be where they are in their journey.
My Story & Background
I think that my early travels opened up my mind to the various philosophies and cultures available in the world. I have read many religious and philosophical books which have given me a wide life perspective and a spiritual foundation. When I came to the United States for my undergraduate studies, I realized very quickly that I was in the wrong major.
It wasn’t until I adopted my 4-year-old daughter in 2009 that I left Corporate America and decided to enroll in the Marriage and Family Therapy Master’s Program at Nova Southeastern University. I performed my internship at a local Intensive Outpatient Program, where I co-facilitated group therapy for patients stepping down from the hospital setting.
I worked my two years as a registered intern at Henderson Behavioral Health as a youth therapist dealing with a wide variety of family issues. Next, I worked three years as a Counselor II for PACE Center for Girls, a therapeutic school setting for teen girls at risk and facing DJJ. There I worked with teens and their families and utilized a systemic approach to healing the whole family unit.
In 2014, I started my private practice and worked with adults and couples dealing with life’s transitions, anxiety, depression, relationship problems, grief, and lack of self-esteem. My career change was the most beneficial action I could have taken to help me raise my daughter. I was lucky to have the tools to deal with the trauma and transition that she had to endure from coming from Colombia. Today she is a strong teen that has all the capabilities of her peers and the heart and values to make anyone proud.
I also feel lucky and proud to work with such a high-quality group of clinicians at Bayview Therapy. What my story has shown me is that with passion, perseverance, and confidence in ourselves, we really can expand our lives into infinite possibilities.
A Little Fun
I love to dance! Salsa, Merengue, Bachata or just plain silly dancing. I love all music and can’t stand still to a good rhythm. My daughter gets so embarrassed when I start busting my moves in front of her friends.
You will also find me at the beach with my family or out admiring nature when I am not in session. I love the sun, trails, animals, and fresh air. These moments ground me and make me thankful for living in such a beautiful place as South Florida.
You have the power to say,
“This is not how my story is going to end”
I know sometimes it's hard to put trust and vulnerability in a therapist. My clients tell me I am easy to speak with and make them feel valued.
Call me today at 786-565-2465 to schedule your appointment in person at our east Fort Lauderdale office or online via phone or video through our secure telehealth platform.
I look forward to speaking with you!
"From the moment I walked into Alexa's office I felt very comfortable with her. I felt welcomed with a smile.
I had always felt that everyone was better or smarter than me, but not any more and that is thanks to my sessions with Alexa. My life, my marriage, and business are booming, I cannot be happier my with life."
~David, Business Entrepreneur